Jealousy Arises When... - Couple's Corner #9

Spell JEALOUS??? haha!!! I can spell it even when I'm sleeping. LOL Jealousy is one thing very common to all couples, as in ALL! I doubt if there's even one couple who will say that they never get jealous sometime in their relationship. This jealousy is bitter for some, but can also be sweet. It can ruin relationships, but it can also strengthen it. In my case, it's the latter. GOOD! =)

We are each others' 2nd loves. I think it's normal. God doesn't always give the 1st to be the last, sometimes the first is only the training ground. I had a 5 years relationship with my 1st and he also had a relationship with someone I believe he wasn't serious of, so that girl is out of my jealousy zone. =) My 1st was my classmate in High School and we lasted until 1st year college, just the time I met my dear hubby. And yeah, I left that long relationship and chose to be with him. While hubbydubs had this pretty (as in super pretty!!! haha!!! mala Kristine Hermosa at Lucy Torres ang dating) childhood crush and I know she was the one he wanted to be with for the rest of his life. (I'm insecure, I know! LOL Sino bang hindi eh super ganda eh!)

Last year (can't remember the exact date), the girl popped up in YM for the first time (in my eyes! baka nun ko lang nakita ng harapan.. haha!!!) and they chatted like I'm not there. =( Kumustahan and kwentuhan.. though it was not very long, but with me on his side and him chatting with her, I didn't feel very well. In a few minutes, I stopped talking and started acting cold again. He keeps on asking why, but I stopped myself from answering until the next day. I don't know what to say. I know it's one stupidity and childishness, but what can I do, I'm jealous!

Another thing was the facebook. I just discovered they were friends in facebook and I said, "Siguro naman kasal na tayo bago pa pinanganak ang facebook na yan! Bakit kailangan pang maging contacts kayo dun? Sa friendster ba may narinig ka sakin, wala dba? Dahil alam ko nauna yun bago pa maging tayo." Oh dava?!?!?! =)

Then of course, it's not only me who gets jealous. Anything about the ex is something for him. I remembered last year also, I chatted with my high school classmate without knowing he was with the same house as my ex. Then the ex chatted with me and make kumustahan as well, but I chose not to tell it to hubby because I know it will lead up to another world war and I never even intended to keep in touch, but he found out when he noticed I erased something on the message archive. I denied at first, but admitted after a few minutes. I am just preventing any quarrels it may bring. Then I realized, I was in the same position the last time, the only difference was that I was there when the girl popped up and I chose to keep mine because  I had the chance. It was a very serious fight that I thought it can no longer be solved.

But with an open communication and HONESTY between us, I believe everything were solved and all are just part of the past. We get jealous with other girls and guys too, but never the same with the 2 mentioned above. LOL Those small and not so serious jealousy are the sweet ones for me, but the others are quite bitter and aren't even good for cakes. =) However, bitter or sweet, still it is one thing that spices up and strengthens a relationship.